Buddy -FeLV positive - is confined to our former guest room. Each day, around 7 pm, I go into the room to spend time (about 2 hours) with Buddy. We have a routine. I go into the room, sit in the chair (all the time Buddy is telling me to hurry, hurry) and cover my lap with a towel. He can hardly wait for the towel to be laid down before he is up in my lap assuming the Patting Position. I pat him, sometimes harder than others - and change to rub him when my hand gets tired. He usually takes about 20 minutes of patting/massaging before he jumps off my lap. Sometimes he will then jump up on my lap and reach for my shoulders for more bum massaging and patting - I call it a Buddy Hug. This cat has a huge piece of my heart.